This past week, we celebrated the infamous Valentine’s Day. Some of you, like myself, celebrated Galentine’s Day. Let me tell you…I have never heard of such a wonderful celebration, in my life, until this year!
Anyways… Any reason to celebrate your girlfriends? I was in.
The night before Valentine’s Day, a group of us women went out for dinner to celebrate the gift of friendship.
While we waited for our order, we took out a piece of paper and wrote things we liked about each other/words of encouragement and placed it in an envelope for the recipient to read.
My dear friends…up until this moment, I did not realize how hard I am on myself. The reality is, I often freely give encouragement to my friends and really anyone who can use it. However, when it comes to my own person, with my strong “can-do-anything” attitude, I often leave myself numb to allow hurt, true joy, and rationalize every thought, action, and reaction.
Obsessed with the idea that I can always self-improve, learn more, and ultimately become my best self.
Reading note after note, I cried like a baby as the need to always self-improve, to chase after perfection, and dream bigger began to dissipate.
Then, I began to think “you know what?…I am enough!” and everyone (including me) can use a little encouragement every once in a while. I will also allow myself to fail; not once, but several times… And not be afraid. Because, there is a good chance that, with friends, you will not be the only one solving problems. Instead, you will have a whole army willing to come along side you and problem-solve with you.
So all that to say, If you don’t have a girl squad, please get one! A group of girls that will:
- Build you up when you cannot do for yourself
- Call you out when you make excuses
- Love you in all your quirks and weird habits
- And cry with you
Beginning solid friendships is never an easy task, but so worth the work in putting into.
Do you have a girl squad? If so, how have they helped shape who you are?